What is absolutely not worth saying, even if it seems to us that it is impossible to do otherwise?
"Leave it, I'll do it!"
"Leave it, I'll do it" is best combined with a loud sigh, a significant raised eyebrow is one of the favorite sayings of young mothers, convinced that everything can be done better, more accurately, more carefully than a man.
Even if it's true, what do these meaningful words lead to? Certainly to remove the young dad from duties, perhaps not only for some time, but also permanently. Although there is no shortage of men who will not be allowed to stand aside (thank them for that!), However, a large group, when they encounter opposition in the voice of their partner, and often also the mother-in-law, are not able to protest and stand on their own (some this situation is also on hand). The consequences are easy to predict ...
"You are not here and I have to do everything myself"
The division of responsibilities is never equal. It is hard to get justice in the first weeks after delivery, when young parents face the challenge of caring for an infant, and this young mother naturally is closer to the infant ...
In addition, if the woman stays with the child and the young dad is tasked to 'earn' for the family, this arrangement must be respected. Dramatizing and exaggerating any of the roles is pointless. This perception is not true at all and is usually harmful.
"What can you know about this?"
Unfortunately, this is another signal of disregard, expressed somewhere between the lines. Even if it's true, because the partner rarely stays with the child, if it is so not from his choice, but out of necessity, then such words can be very harmful. The above sentence is information showing the "sense of superiority" of the partner - the mother of the child and emphasizing her role - unwavering and the most important. Meanwhile, why hurt and start a conflict?